The surest thing is to respond to the crying of a newborn immediately. It is impossible to “spoil” a small child by paying attention to him. Making sure that you do not leave him in trouble and loneliness, the baby will begin to feel more confident and will cry less often «just like that».
Already in the first days of life, the baby knows how to cry in different ways. Listen carefully to the sounds that he makes, and very soon you will learn to easily understand your baby. The demand for food and the indignation caused by a dirty diaper, the desire to know how quickly you will come running if you are called, crying associated with fatigue or poor health — all these signals are very distinctly different from each other.
When responding to a crying baby, try to satisfy the most urgent need first. If he is cold, hungry, and his diaper is wet, warm him up, change his diaper, and then feed him.
A well-fed, dry and healthy child who still cries inconsolably can be tried to calm down in one of the following ways:
• shake hands;
• gently pat on the back or chest;
• swaddle tightly in a blanket;
• sing a song or talk to him, turn on quiet, calm music;
• be carried around in your arms, in a carry cot, or taken for a ride in a stroller (for example, the tako jumper x stroller is very popular with babies);
• bathe in a warm bath (most children love to bathe, but not all).
Baby crying always has a reason. And it does not necessarily lie in the insufficient satisfaction of some physical needs. Probably, every baby in his life has such a period when he is capricious for a long time, despite the fact that he is full, warm, comfortable and in excellent physical health. The endless search for solace can really bring parents to white heat.
But everything passes. And it depends only on your calmness how quickly the exhausting crying of the baby will stop.
First of all, don’t be so quick to blame yourself for not being good at your motherhood. You are now in the process of learning — just like your inconsolable child. He learns different ways to communicate with you — but you are busy with the same thing! What is happening now is just a search for a common language. Going through various means of comfort, you will find out what exactly your baby likes the most, what songs, movements, intonations, sounds are most pleasant to him. Every day you become more experienced and at the same time more flexible in your relationship with your child.
Of course, the «sufferer» himself takes out a lot of new and very important knowledge from his «capricious exercises»: how to most effectively attract your attention, how much you can rely on your patience, and where the boundaries of what is permitted go. Gradually, he learns to understand that nothing bad will happen to him, and it is this sense of the reliability of the world that forms the basis of the ability to wait for the fulfillment of his desires. Growing up, confident in parents, the child will not experience some delay in the implementation of his requirements as a real threat to his well-being.