Crises in family life arise in absolutely all families, even the happiest, this is an axiom that needs to be accepted and philosophical to treat it. And if you know where and when such critical moments may arise, you can try to smooth them as much as possible and survive calmly. This is especially good for those couples who are ready to work for the good of the family together.
The Moscow family psychologist identified 6 basic crises that lead to family problems or can even cause its decay.
one. The beginning of growing up, about 6 weeks after the beginning of family life. During this period, the spouses take off pink glasses of love and look as if in a new way at a partner, see those features that have not previously noticed, or did not pay attention to them, the attacks are also acquainted with the habits of a partner who did not appear before. The successful development of relationships depends on how disappointed the spouses are with the revealed traits and whether they agree to put up with them and continue living together.
2. The beginning of household problems, approximately 2 months after the start of family life. Spouses begin to understand whether their partner is ready to accept them with all their advantages and disadvantages. If one of the spouses is not ready to live together everyday life, then the marriage is most likely doomed to collapse.
3. Love at a distance, in about 2.5 years. This crisis is characterized by a weakening sexual desire of partners. Of course, this does not become a reason for divorce, but some distance between the spouses appears, and this can lead to conflicts. In order to maintain interest in each other, or to renew it, it is necessary to engage in self-development, discover new facets in yourself, so that the partner sees that he knows not everything about you.
four. Shark happiness, after about 4 years. Couples already have children by this moment, there is practically no free time. Parents are trying to look for new entertainments to satisfy their needs, often this leads to removal, the occurrence of misunderstanding and divorces. In order to avoid this, it is necessary to try to pay attention to each other, shares his feelings and anxieties, maintain intimacy, takes care of each other and support in difficult times.
5. Maximum criticism, about 7 years after the start of family life. It is believed that this crisis is associated with the cyclicity of human life. Experts argue that human life has a 7 -year cycle, so every 7 years of life in a person there are internal changes, as well as changes surrounded by a person. It was not possible to single out clear reasons for the crisis of family relations, but one way or another, all families pass through it.
6. The last danger, after about 12 years. The last and most difficult crisis is characterized by the fact that the spouses begin to look around, compare themselves and their lives with others. Men want to realize their potential, and begin to look to the side, women envy their girlfriends, looking back at their past life.